My partner doesn’t seem to be bonding with our four-week-old daughter and he only helps me out as a ‘favour’
DEAR DEIDRE: MY world revolves around my four-week-old baby girl and I assumed my partner would feel the same.
But he doesn’t seem to be bonding with her. He only helps out as a “favour” to me.
When I asked if he wanted a cuddle with his daughter after work, he said: “If you need me to”.
I’m 23 and he’s 25. We’ve been together for three years.
He’s not very emotional as a person but it worries me that it could always be like this. It has honestly broken my heart.
DEIDRE SAYS: Many men respond more to babies once they start smiling, for example – which she will soon.
He might never have been around babies before and might not feel confident.
Get him Commando Dad: Basic Training From Birth To Three Years, by Neil Sinclair.
Encourage him to look after his daughter at least a couple of nights a week while you go out, so they can build a bond of their own.
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