My boyfriend keeps sneaking out at night and refuses to explain – am I worrying too much?
DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend keeps doing a disappearing act in the middle of the night but refuses to explain.
I moved in with him a year ago but over the past couple of months he is always trying to sneak off in the dead of night.
Sometimes he’s gone for ten minutes, other times it’s more like a couple of hours.
We’re both 28.
He won’t say where he’s going, just that he’ll be back soon.
We had a big argument about it and he said he doesn’t have to answer to anyone. Am I reading too much into it and worrying about nothing?
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DEIDRE SAYS: There are lots of explanations for his midnight activity – he could be involved in drugs, another woman, or even stealing.
But one thing is for sure – it isn’t legitimate, or he wouldn’t hide it.
Tell him that you cannot stay in a relationship without honesty and if he has a problem you are ready to help.
But if he continues behaving like this, it’s over.