I’m avoiding my girlfriend because I’m worried I’ll flop in bed
DEAR DEIDRE: THE first time I had sex, I couldn’t get an erection. Now I’m so worried I’m a flop in bed that I’m avoiding my girlfriend.
I’m 16 and have been with her for four months. She’s 16 too, and also a virgin.
We both agreed we were ready for sex. But as soon as we were naked, I went soft. I was really embarrassed, and she thought I didn’t fancy her.
I’m too nervous to try again.
Will I be a virgin for ever?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Anxiety about losing your virginity meant your body didn’t co-operate. The more you worry about this, the more likely it is to happen.
Don’t avoid your girlfriend. Focus on kissing and cuddling for a while to take the pressure off.
Next time you try, make sure you’re feeling really comfortable, so things happen naturally.
If you are worried, talk to the Mix (themix. org.uk, 0808 808 4994) in confidence.