My partner has clocked out of our relationship and won’t help with our son
DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend has clocked out of our relationship and it’s really making me miserable.
He’s stopped saying he loves me, and I’m starting to wonder if he’s just using me as a placeholder.
I’m 27, he’s 29 and we’ve been together for six years. We have a son together who is two.
For the last year of our relationship, things have become very one-sided, and the man I thought I knew has morphed into someone I don’t recognise.
Not only has he stopped trying in our relationship but he has given up on our family too.
He has no time for me, or our son. Every single decision is left to me to discuss and sort out – it’s exhausting.
I know I should leave him but I feel so trapped. He tells me that he’s “the best I’ll ever have”.
What if he’s right?
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DEIDRE SAYS: He isn’t right and you deserve better. It’s clear he has little care for you and is gaslighting you in an effort to keep you around.
In a quiet moment, say that unless he takes an interest in you and your son, you will need to split up.
My support pack, Standing Up For Yourself, will help you get your message across, and a second one, Looking After Your Relationship, will help you talk to each other.