A conversation with an online friend turned flirty – now she won’t talk to me
DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN our chat became sexual, I thought my year-long online friendship was finally turning into a proper relationship.
Instead, this woman has said she felt so bad about being tempted by me that she is ending our friendship altogether.
I feel really hurt and confused, as she was the one who brought up sex.
I’m a man of 48 and she’s 44. We’re both divorced, with grown-up kids.
For the last 12 months, we’ve talked almost every day and grown very close.
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I always hoped it would turn into something more, but we live far apart.
A few weeks ago, she started asking me about sex.
I said I had been pretty adventurous sexually and told her about a threesome and a racy one night stand.
She seemed to get very aroused by what I said, especially when I told her what I’d like to do with her when we met.
She said she hadn’t felt like that in years.
The next night, she was very quiet. And then she said she couldn’t be friends any more, and stopped all contact.
It feels like a big rejection.
DEIDRE SAYS: It’s possible she only wanted friendship and regretted the sex talk. Or perhaps she felt guilt because of her upbringing.
It’s also possible she’s in a relationship with someone else.
I know it’s hurtful, but it’s best to put this behind you and try to meet someone who wants a full relationship.
My support pack, Finding The Love Of Your Life, should help.
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