9 weird psychological reasons someone might fall in love with you
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Love and attraction are weird and mysterious things.
There's a lot we don't understand — and a lot that's idiosyncratic to individual people and couples.
That's why a lot of research into why we mate is bizarre to the point of incoherence — cultural norms as well as oddities in the research methods can create a lot of noise.
Yet it turns out there is a lot of science about why people fall in love that is at once super strange and actually fairly credible.
Keep in mind that no one study is enough to draw definite, broad conclusions. That's especially true because this research tends to focus on the specific behaviors of heterosexual undergraduate students at the universities where researchers work. Still, there's a lot of fascinating knowledge out there about our habits of love and attraction.
Here are nine of the most most interesting finds.
1. People tend to fall in love with other people who are like them. Shared values, life experiences, levels of attractiveness, and age all can make a major difference.
Rafi Letzter/Tech InsiderSources: Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology
2. If you want someone to fall in love with you, it might help to resemble their opposite-sex parent. That can mean hair and eye color, but also age. Children of young parents tend to seek out young partners more often.
APSource: Evolution and Human Behavior
3. There's some evidence that scent can play a role in attraction. Ovulating women, for example, may prefer the scents of men with more testosterone. And men may prefer the scents of women at certain times in their menstrual cycles.
Tech Insider/Madison Malone KircherSources: Proceedings of the Royal Society B, Psychological Science, Psychological Science
Also: Check out our review of a site that matches people based on how they smell after not showering.
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