I thought I was straight but I have now started having sex with men – I don’t know what to do
DEAR DEIDRE: UNTIL recently I considered myself to be a straight guy and I only ever had eyes for women.
I’m 34 and have had a few long-term girlfriends and even have a four-year-old daughter with one ex.
But now I’ve had a few encounters with men, which is making me question my sexuality, and I’ve started to enjoy watching gay and bisexual porn.
Recently I had a threesome with my best mate and his girlfriend.
I was staying with them over the weekend, and we’d all had a really fun night out.
It was their suggestion, and although I was reluctant at first, I eventually agreed.
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We all went up to their bedroom and during the moment me and my mate were intimate with each other as well as with his girlfriend.
I surprised myself with how much I enjoyed the experience.
Since then, I’ve had oral sex with another man and sexual experiences with both genders.
I am confused. Why do I keep getting drawn into sex with men?
I was wondering if you would be able to tell me what my sexuality is.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Human sexuality is complicated and many people need to experiment before they are clear on their sexual preference.
Labelling yourself isn’t always helpful. While some see themselves as definitely straight or gay, others feel somewhere in between.
Sex with your friend was exciting and arousing, and it sounds as though this has opened a window on your sexuality that you have not even thought about before.
If you want to talk through your feelings, contact Switchboard LGBT (0300 330 0630).
And read my Gay Worries and Bisexual Questions support packs.
On a note of caution, please do make sure you are practising safe sex with all your partners to avoid contracting and passing on any STIs.
My support pack Safe Sex has more information.