I’m sick of my addict brother ruling the roost
DEAR DEIDRE: I am sick of my addict brother ruling the roost in our family.
He behaves appallingly and gets away with it and I want him out of our house.
I’m 26 and he’s 28.
Property prices and rents are so expensive that after I left university, my parents agreed I could come onto their mortgage.
I work and pay a share of the mortgage and for bills and food. The idea is that in the future I’ll take over the whole mortgage and the house will be mine.
But my older brother, who has made a total mess of his life, ended up homeless. My parents said he could live back at home rent-free.
He drinks too much, takes drugs and treats the place like a doss house.
My parents won’t kick him out, and it’s leading to lots of arguments between us.
I’m worried I’ll never be rid of him.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your brother is behaving like this because your parents are allowing him to. Their leniency won’t help him beat his addictions either.
Sit them down and talk seriously. Say how unfair this situation is, given that this is now your house too.
My support pack, Standing Up For Yourself, should help you to have this conversation.
You all need to talk to your brother too and set out ground rules for him.
Contact Adfam (adfam.org .uk) which helps addicts and their families. My support pack, Drug Worries, should also be useful.
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