I’m driving my friends away because I’m still raging over my mums death
DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE my mum died, I’ve been lashing out and pushing everyone away.
I feel so angry all the time, and don’t know how to deal with it. Please help.
I’m a 30-year-old single guy. My mum died from breast cancer last year, aged 57.
We were extremely close and I felt cheated to have lost her so young.
I’m angry she’s not there for me to talk to, that she’ll never see me walk down the aisle or be a grandmother to my kids.
Her death came not long after I also lost a good friend in a car accident, and my grandfather recently passed away too.
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It’s not fair that I’m having to deal with so much loss. I’m quick to anger and often feel like punching the walls.
When my friends try to help me, I feel like they can’t understand. So I swear at them and try to pick fights.
Now, most of them don’t bother with me any more.
How can I stop being this horrible person I’ve turned into?
DEIDRE SAYS: Grief can cause all kinds of emotions, and anger is a very common one.
You’ve been through a lot and it’s natural that you want to rail against the world. But you’re stuck and this isn’t healthy.
You need help from a counsellor to get past this stage in the grieving process, so you can rebuild your life.
My support packs can help too – Bereavement tells you more about dealing with grief, while Managing Anger will also be useful.
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