My mum received a text accusing her of sleeping with someone else’s husband
DEAR DEIDRE: SOMEONE sent a message saying my mum was having sex with her husband.
I’m really shocked and upset, and I don’t know what to believe or if I should tell her what I know.
I’m a 21-year-old man and still live at home with my parents, who are in their early fifties.
Last Sunday, Mum popped out to help a neighbour and left her phone charging in the kitchen.
When I heard a message ping in, I thought I’d better check it in case it was important and I needed to get her.
What I saw made me feel sick. It was a message from a woman she used to work with — I recognised the name.
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The message said: “I know you’re sleeping with my husband. He told me everything.”
I didn’t know what to do.
I was in such a panic that I deleted it. It didn’t make sense.
First of all, I don’t know when Mum would have the time for an affair.
She works full-time and rarely goes out in the evenings. And if Mum was having an affair, wouldn’t she be secretive with her phone? She’s always leaving it around.
She and my dad don’t have the best relationship but I think they still love each other.
Could this woman be lying or is it possible she’s got the wrong end of the stick?
I don’t know if I should say something to my mum, or if I should try to contact this woman myself and find out the truth.
I can’t stop thinking about it, and Mum has noticed I’m being weird with her.
There’s nobody I can talk to. It’s driving me crazy.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You shouldn’t have to deal with this alone.
It would be best if you could talk to your mum and tell her about the text.
She deserves to know this woman has contacted her and what she’s said.
She will understand your shock and why you deleted it.
Ask her to be honest with you. Even if she is having an affair, it doesn’t mean that she isn’t the person you think.
We don’t always know what goes on in other people’s relationships or in their private lives.
Before you speak to her, you need to talk this through with someone sympathetic. Contact themix.org.uk, 0808 808 4994, who help under-25s.
My support pack Young And Worried might also help you.
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