I’ve been banned from seeing my girlfriend by her mother – I’m distraught
DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE been banned from seeing my girlfriend, by her mother, and I’m distraught.
The idea of losing her is too much to bear.
She’s 27, I’m 28 and we have been together for two years.
Our relationship has always been amazing but, the trouble is, she’s still legally married to her ex.
While this hasn’t phased me, her mum is very traditional and doesn’t condone any relationship while someone is still married.
For the sake of keeping the peace, my girlfriend and I agreed to keep things low-key until her divorce had been finalised.
The last thing I wanted was for her to be alienated from her family.
We did well to keep things a secret, until her mum bumped into us while we were out for dinner.
She told us that, if we didn’t break things off, she would disown my girlfriend.
Family means the world to my girlfriend so she very reluctantly agreed to stop seeing me until her divorce.
Now it’s been weeks and I feel so lost without her.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m sorry to hear about the distress this is causing you. It can be a challenge when your family doesn’t approve of your relationship.
Her mum has very traditional views which she is imposing on her daughter.
Your girlfriend is old enough to make her own decisions but, unless she is prepared to stand up for what she wants, then it’s unlikely much will change.
Read my support pack Standing Up For Your-self, and pass it on to your girlfriend, as it may help if and when she chooses to have that conversation.
Tell your girlfriend you would like her to stand up for you and you’ll do anything to support her, but that you won’t be able to wait for ever.
