I drunk too much wine and nearly had sex with my boss – I fear boyfriend will find out
DEAR DEIDRE: DRINKING wine turns me into someone I don’t recognise and I’m worried that my latest antics might have gone too far.
The last time I drank too much I nearly had sex with my boss, and I think my boyfriend’s cousin, who works with me, might have seen.
Normally I’m reserved and quiet, but give me a drink or two and I transform into someone outrageous.
We have a really good social life through work but I’ve become too tipsy a few times — snogging different colleagues and even my boss on one occasion.
I am 29 and my boyfriend is 31. We have been together for two years.
Recently I was at a work do and I lost track of how many glasses of wine I’d had.
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Towards the end of the night, I got a real shock when I stood up to leave and I could hardly walk.
My boss, who is 38, helped me outside to find a taxi.
We ended up sitting on a bench and the next thing I knew we were all over each other and his hands were up my dress.
Through my drunken fog, I started to come to my senses and told him I’d had enough.
As I got up to hail a cab, I saw my boyfriend’s cousin turn away and get in a cab of his own. I’ve never sobered up so quickly.
I felt so guilty and terrified that my boyfriend’s cousin would tell him everything, so confessed to him.
He still wants me, for some unknown reason.
I don’t understand why I do it. I am only like this when I drink. I need help — maybe some therapy.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Alcohol lowers your inhibitions, making you feel less self-conscious, and can make you behave impulsively.
If you think you drink too much, the chances are that you do.
Facing up to the fact that you may have a drink problem is perhaps the most courageous step you can take towards regaining control over your life.
My support pack Drink Problem explains where to get expert help.
Stay sober in future and turn the guilt you feel into focusing on your boyfriend and making the most of your relationship.
He has forgiven you and no doubt respects your honesty.
Tell him you are going to seek help and want his backing.
My other support pack Feeling Guilty will help you too.