The guy I love flirts with me but doesn’t to be want more than friends
DEAR DEIDRE: The guy I’m in love with flirts with me, but says he doesn’t want more than friendship.
I’m so confused about why he behaves like this, when we’re perfect for each other.
I’m 18 and he’s 19. We’ve been best mates since we were at school together.
We talk every day and he’s always telling me how much he values my friendship and how great I am.
When we meet up, he’s very affectionate, always hugging me and play-fighting and making lots of eye contact.
But when I said I wanted to be more than friends, he said he wanted to keep me as a mate.
It’s messing with my head. What’s going on with him?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Some people are naturally flirty.
Your mate might be frightened to get involved, in case it ruins your close friendship. Perhaps he’s happy being single.
Unfortunately, you can’t make him want a relationship, even if you feel it would work.
Things might change in time, or they might not, but for now, it’s best to accept his decision or distance yourself if you find the friendship frustrating.
Read my support pack, Learning To Love.